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Can we marry before our overseas wedding?

Yes, absolutely.

Many couples choose to legally marry in Australia before their destination or overseas celebration.

A legals only wedding in Cairns is a very common option for couples who:

  • are planning a larger celebration overseas
  • need to complete legal paperwork for visa or residency purposes
  • want to keep their overseas wedding as a symbolic ceremony only
  • prefer to separate the legal marriage from their celebration

Your Cairns ceremony covers all the legal requirements under Australian law, so once it is completed, you are officially married.

This allows you to enjoy your overseas wedding freely as a celebration, without legal requirements or paperwork attached to the day itself.

How much does a legals only wedding cost in Cairns?

My EXTRA SPECIAL legals only ceremonies start from $550 in a location such as the Botanic Gardens, Palooka, NOA or Wharf One. I like to upsize them and make them extra by adding in a few beautiful words on marriage and friendship and a ring exchange. So it’s simple but very beautiful.

The cost of a legals only wedding in Cairns can vary depending on the celebrant, location and what’s included, but most simple legal ceremonies are far more affordable than a traditional wedding.

A legals only ceremony includes:

  • preparation and lodgement of legal paperwork
  • the required 124 legally binding words
  • signing of documents
  • registration of your marriage
  • two witnesses over 18

Some couples choose a very simple signing-style ceremony, while others include a beautiful beach or rainforest location around Cairns, Palm Cove or Port Douglas. 

For couples wanting a simple, stress-free and affordable way to get married, legals only weddings are one of the simplest and most popular options in Tropical North Queensland.

What is included in a legals only ceremony in Cairns?

 A legals only ceremony service includes:

  • preparation and lodgement of legal paperwork including your Notice of Intended Marriage (NOIM)
  • the required 124 legally binding words including legal vows
  • signing of documents
  • registration of your marriage with Births, Deaths and Marriages
  • two witnesses over 18

A legals only wedding in Cairns is a perfect for couples who:

  • want an affordable, relaxed and simple way to get married
  • are happy with a short 5 minute ceremony
  • are planning a larger celebration overseas
  • need to complete legal paperwork for visa or residency purposes
  • want to keep their overseas wedding as a symbolic ceremony only
What’s your style of celebrancy?

My style is creative and warm and ever-changing for every single couple I work with.

Laughter is important, we have to be able to crack a joke and have fun.

I am open-minded and love celebrating all the sweet, quirky, interesting, weird and wonderful.

I tell YOUR story. Not theirs, repurposed as yours. No two ceremonies I write are ever the same.

Thinking outside the box and dreaming up unique and special ways to make your Cairns wedding ceremony meaningful are my specialty. So long as those ideas feel good and resonate with you.

Understanding you, building a trusting relationship and creating a tailored ceremony is important. Above all, I want to make this experience fun and free-flowing and easy for you both. 

How do I choose a Cairns wedding celebrant?

Your celebrant is the vendor you will spend the most time with. And upon whom so much of you and your guests enjoyment and experience of your day rests. Your ceremony is the beating heart of your wedding day. So your celebrant is the one choice you need to make because they fit you just right.

Choose someone you think you will be friends with because in the end, you want to be walking down that aisle to a friendly face, someone you trust and who understands you.

You want to feel heard, do they listen and ask questions and are they interested in you or do they just talk at you?

Are they flexible and willing to work with you and incorporate your ideas? You want to feel safe, so you can relax and enjoy the moment, worry-free.

Choose them for who they are, the value and experience they bring and the time they are willing to invest into building a relationship, tailoring your ceremony and the connection they create. Because that’s when the magic happens!

Whatever you do, don’t choose a celebrant just because they are available and the most affordable. By the time you realise the old saying about peanuts and monkeys is true, your once-in-a-lifetime moment has passed. You don’t get a re-do. Talk to me about the many other (way less important) areas you can keep costs down.

 

Where do I start?

It’s totally ok (and really normal) if you have no idea where to start – that’s what I am here for.

I think for most couples the hardest part is knowing where to start and I have that covered for you with my Wedding Ceremony Planner.

This planner is really easy to use and it inspires you to be creative. It is full of inspo hand selected from my personal experience over the last 17 years marrying people from all over the world.

Each couple has their own online client portal to ensure nothing is missed. It gives you easy access to everything you need, forms, questionaires, emails, invoice, contract and we can share images and inspo here too.

Everything regarding your wedding is kept nice and organized on this page so you don’t have to sort through all of your emails. How good is that?!  

Do I have to ….?

Nope, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to and I will back your choices all the way.

When making decisions, I find it helpful to ask yourself “does this feel good and right or does it make me feel a bit blah or uneasy?” Listen to your gut, it will clarify your decision making.  On the day you will be surrounded by the choices that make you feel great.

As long as we include the legal wording, have you , me and two witnesses to sign the paperwork, the rest is completely up to you. You are freeeee to be yourself, how good is that?!

I am worried about using a microphone.

You are not alone! That’s why I use hands-free, wireless clip on microphones. No battery packs, no cords and best of all, you don’t have to hold a mic. I’ll clip your mic onto the groom’s lapel just before your speaking parts. And I’ll take it off straight after, so you can laugh and chat with each other in privacy too.

Some celebrants charge $400?

Yes they do, and some charge $1800.00. I am in the middle.

I am also the least expensive and most important part of your day. Your ceremony is the moment that breathes life into your marriage. And when it’s done right, it is always hands-down the best part of your day.

Your guests won’t remember the flavour of your cake, the meal, your invites or the colour of your garter, but they will remember how you made them feel. So let’s make them feel something big and beautiful and magical.

Their memory should be “that was the BEST WEDDING I’ve ever been to”. If you give me the honour of choosing me, you know that you have a full-time celebrant working with you who is creatively focused on your wedding and sharing this journey with you.

How do you create a personalised ceremony that feels like an authentic celebration of us?

I spend time talking to you both, asking questions and really listening. Not only am I am hearing what you say, I am also picking up on your non-verbal cues, the way you interact and communicate, your manner of speaking/ bantering/ joking with each other.

A lot of what I do involves reading between the lines and picking up on subtle clues.

I ask you to answer some questions in my ceremony planner – I’ve been told this is a two-beer job! Make this a date night, share a dinner and some wine and fill these out together. Play my curated music playlists in the car on the way so you can start thinking about your ceremony music.

Once I draft your ceremony, you make any changes until it feels just right. We make any final adjustments and run over the moving parts of your ceremony (we don’t read any of the words or spoil the surprise) at our final meeting/rehearsal. Just so you know where to stand, how to exchange rings etc so you know what to expect and can relax on the day.

What about music?

Your choice of music is important for setting the tone for your ceremony. Choose music that you love, makes you feel good or has special significance to you as a couple.

For inspiration, I will share with you my curated playlists on Spotify filled with songs my real-life couples have chosen for their ceremonies over the last year.

I can DJ your ceremony music for you from my IPAD or you can choose a tech savvy guest to control music from their phone, on my cues. Generally you will need a minimum of four songs.

· Entrance – One to Two Songs
One song is usually enough, however if you have either a long entrance walks or lots of attendants, you may want two songs here. One song for the attendants and one for the bridal entrance.

· Kiss and Signing– Two Songs
As you kiss, this song plays. Linger in this moment! When the time is right, I ask couple and witnesses to join me at signing table to sign paperwork.

· Kiss and Signing continued –
This second song plays directly after the kiss song while paperwork is being signed. It may not be played in full depending on how long the paperwork takes.

· Exit / Recessional – One Song
Choose a very happy, joyful song for this.

· Pre and post ceremony background music
Your guests arrive around 15-20 mins before we begin, so it’s great to have a collection of songs to play as soft background music before the ceremony. You may also like to have a list to play after the exit as happy upbeat background music while the bride and groom mingle with guests.

I can create playlists if you would like me to DJ.

How long will the wedding ceremony go for?

I strike a perfect balance so it’s short enough to keep your guests engaged and long enough to give the moment depth it deserves. Pace is important!

Most Cairns wedding ceremonies take between 25-30  minutes from start of entrance walk, through the ceremony, kiss, signing and the huge happy exit into hugs and kisses and photos.

Remember this includes 4 songs, so this time will fly by. Often couples who wish for a very short wedding are disappointed and so are their guests.

Your marriage ceremony is the heart and soul of your wedding and it will set the mood for your entire day. People have travelled to be with you as you marry so make it heartfelt. Your guests love to laugh and cry and feel at weddings and they want to be swept up in a celebration of the two people they love.

 

We are thinking of eloping…

Do it! Elopements rock. A modern elopement is all about getting married in a way that is designed solely for your happiness and experience instead of your guests. If you like the idea of saying YES to a peaceful, relaxed, intimate ceremony custom built for you and saying NO to stress, planning, politics and expectation, come talk to me.

Can you help me plan our elopement?

YES – I love an elopement in any shape or size! I also love an adventure elopement! I have travelled from Melbourne to Cape York, Sydney to Thailand to celebrate amazing humans finding love. This is going to be a blast! Let’s plan your elopement right now…

What is your process Ali?

1. After checking availability, we have a phone chat to get a feel for each other, we want to gel and feel confident that we will enjoy working together.

2. Payment of a booking fee secures your date.

3. We meet up throughout the process either online or face-to-face.

4. We explore the legal aspects starting with the lodgement Notice of Intended Marriage form and sighting of identification. Fill out this form: https://www.ag.gov.au/families-and-marriage/publications/notice-intended-marriage

5. The fun stuff begins where we dive into creating your unique wedding ceremony.

6. We have a rehearsal or final meeting to answer last minute questions and run over moving parts.

7. We get you married.

8. I register your marriage with Registry of Births Deaths and Marriages, at this time I can also apply for your Official Certificate of Marriage on your behalf.

9. You receive your Official Certificate in the mail which you then use to change your name is desired.

What is your pre-wedding process on the big day?

I spend the morning of your wedding day rehearsing and memorising your ceremony so I can present it naturally.

I do vocal exercises in the car. arriving 45-60min beforehand so I can prep any props, check seating allocations and set-up are all as per your requirements. Set up my PA, video camera, tripod, mics and sound check.

Liaise with vendors and brief your photographer/ videographer on special moments not to be missed in your ceremony. Ground myself and prepare the ceremony space with a meditation and Reiki.

Play background music. Welcome guests. Chat to immediate family and check they know where they are seated. Chat to anyone participating in the ceremony such as readers and witnesses. Settle and brief groomsmen. Welcome and brief bridal party. Gather and seat guests. Showtime.

 

Do we need a Rehearsal?

If having a full-rehearsal will make you feel more comfortable then we will absolutely do one. But if you have enough on your plate or don’t have time, don’t worry.

I arrive early to brief everyone involved and I quietly guide you all through the wedding ceremony. All you have to do is be in the moment knowing I am there for you.

I also have rehearsal video’s you can share with your wedding party, your dad or escort/s and all main participants.

Tradition isn’t really our thing..

I love celebrating the things that make you you.

In a way that allows you to experience all the things that matter and are important to you. An skipping the bits that feel empty or unnecessary.

I am happy to break tradition, if it makes sense to you and makes you feel good. I am also happy to add any cultural elements, nods to heritage, pride, rainbow or anything else.

I want you to feel happy and free, grounded, present and authentic.

What makes a great wedding?

The best ceremonies take you and your guests on a journey. 

There is often a sense of past, present and future. You want to have lots of “awww” moments, happy tears, laughter, and a warm-hearted sense of inclusion.

The ceremony should feel like a real celebration of you two humans and your guests should recognize you both in all the words we use.

We are really nervous!

You are so safe and loved! I am here for you every step of the way. Think of me as your personal safety net. I will wrap you up in a bubble of love so you can float through the day without the nerves.

It’s important that you are fully present and in the moment so I’ll share with you the greatest secret behind actually enjoying your wedding day and I have lots of practical tips to help you get there.

You will know that nothing can really go wrong in the end. I will be gently and quietly leading the way when you need it, and I also know when to leave you to enjoy your personal private moments when you need those too.

Nervous about saying your vows in public? I have some really cool ways to work around this. Plus you don’t have to hold a microphone. I use hands-free, wireless RODE microphones. See my FAQ on mics.

I am nervous about being the centre of attention.

There is so much we can do to take that fishbowl feeling away from you. Changing your positioning, altering the ways you enter, and a first look are just the tip of the iceberg. I also use hands-free, clip on blue tooth microphones so you can speak naturally forgetting the mic is there.

The key is to get you out of your head and into your heart. It’s a skill.

I give you tips about ways to slow down, pause and savour this special moment so it doesn’t fly by in a total whirlwind.

And on the day I consciously and subtly add elements into your ceremony which engage you and your guests, break the ice, relax you out of your nerves and make everyone feel included. It’s not obvious, you just know you feel good and are right there together in the moment.

 

How do you write wedding vows?

Ever wondered what you should include in wedding vows? How long should wedding vows be? Do you have to write your own wedding vows? What are some examples of wedding vows?  Can my vows be funny? I’ve got the answers!

Writing vows is easier than you think when you follow my guide.

I’ll share with you my expert guide to writing vows which breaks it into bite-sized steps, giving you a few different approaches, so you’ll be sure to find one that works for you.

I also have a selection of really beautiful vow samples you can either choose from or use as inspiration. Or do a little blend of both mine and yours!

Alternatively, you can skip the personal vows altogether and and just say the legal vow ” I ask everyone here to witness, that I (full name) take you (full name) to be my lawfully wedding wife/husband/partner in marriage”. Done!

I often get asked “Can we read our wedding vows instead of memorising them? Absolutely YES! Don’t put unnecessary stress on yourself. I will hand you your vow card to read from at the right moment – too easy. 

Plus you have me as your sounding board and safety net – I check the length and tone of your vows aren’t at odds.

 

Will you print readings and vows?

Yes, on request. I can print your wedding vows on beautiful card in a big, easy to read font. Or you can hand-write or print your own vows if you prefer.

Readers are welcome to bring their own copy of their reading, one in which they have practiced with and are most comfortable with. I can also print their reading on card or hand your readers my iPad from which to read if they prefer.

Can I include my guests?

Yes please! Choose family and friends who will really enjoy being included.

Give important people in your life a role or ask talented friends to contribute and make it interesting. They could sing or play a song, read a poem or speech they’ve written, perform a dance, welcome or seat guests, sign your certificates – the sky is the limit and it adds a real meaning to the ceremony. If guests are comfortable playing a role then I can’t recommend this enough.

You just have to say “Ali I would really love “Aunty Pat” to be involved somehow” and we will figure out a special way for her to be included. One that she will actually enjoy.

What Are the Legal Requirements to Get Married in Australia?

To legally marry in Australia, you must:

  • complete a Notice of Intended Marriage (Download NOIM here)
  • lodge the NOIM with celebrant at least one month before your wedding date
  • be over 18
  • provide proof of identity – passports ideal otherwise birth certificate AND license
  • have two witnesses over 18
  • say the required legal vows during the ceremony
  • read the Happily Ever After” brochure
  • sign the “Declaration of no legal impediment to marriage” which your celebrant gives you before your ceremony, usually at rehearsal.

Your celebrant handles the legal side of things and makes sure everything is completed properly.

One of the biggest misconceptions is that a legals only ceremony has to feel cold or impersonal.

It absolutely doesn’t.

When done my special way, even the simplest ceremonies end up feeling incredibly intimate and emotional.

After your wedding, your celebrant will register your marriage with the Registry of Births, Deaths and Marriages in the state or territory where your marriage took place.

How quickly can you get married in Cairns?

In Australia, there is a minimum legal waiting period of one month after lodging your Notice of Intended Marriage (NOIM) before you can legally marry.

That means the quickest you can get married in Cairns is one month from the date your paperwork is submitted.

In some special circumstances, such as urgent medical reasons or visa-related situations, you may be able to apply for a shortening of time. 

For many couples, a legals only wedding in Cairns, is a simple and efficient option — everything is organised quickly within a clear timeframe, without the long planning stress of a traditional wedding.

The Notice of Intended Marriage form can be downloaded here https://www.ag.gov.au/families-and-marriage/publications/notice-intended-marriage

What name do I sign on the marriage certificate?

This gets asked all the time, literally just as you are about to sign on the dotted line! You sign your current name not your married name.

You cannot legally change your name to your married name until after you receive your Official Marriage Certificate, usually a few weeks after your ceremony. It is only then you can begin the process of changing your name. So if you are going on an overseas honeymoon straight after the wedding, don’t book your flights in your married name!

How do I get my Official Certificate of Marriage?

On the day of your marriage you, you take home a beautiful symbolic certificate of marriage to commemorate your wedding day. It won’t legally prove your marriage or allow you to change your name. You have to wait for your Official Certificate of Marriage to do this.

After your wedding day, I register your marriage online.
You then apply directly to the Registry for your Official Certificate by filling out an application, paying the fee, and providing certified copies of your identification.

However, I like to simplify and fast track this process for you by applying on your behalf when I register your marriage. This extra step means you don’t have to fill out the application yourself – so much easier! BDM will then contact you directly for payment (standard certificate and postage is $62.00) and they will then post your certificate directly to your home. You can then use it to change your name.

Note: I need to sight your original identification in order to apply on your behalf, make sure you bring this when we meet.

Sun, rain and do we need a back-up plan?

Being physically uncomfortable is the one thing that pulls everyone out of the moment. It’s impossible to get swept up in the beauty of your love story when you are in full-sun, hot and thirsty or worried about getting wet.

You might think “oh it’s not for very long” but trust me, it’s a deal breaker for everyone. Try going out in your backyard in a suit and dress, stand and hold hands with your partner looking face into the direction of the full mid-afternoon sun and see how long you last.

3pm can be a brutal time of day, so if your ceremony is outdoors consider a slightly later start, say 4pm. Or a morning wedding. Or choose a shady area for your ceremony.

Have water or drinks on-hand for guests. And have a wet-weather back-up plan in case of rain and be sure to let me know what that plan is.

I can bring 10 clear umbrellas or rice paper parasols upon request.

What is the Happily Ever Before and After Brochure and Services for Couples and families?

Once you lodge your Notice of Intended Marriage form, it is the responsibility of your celebrant to provide you with this document (Happily Ever Before and After)

https://www.ag.gov.au/sites/default/files/2020-03/happily-ever-before-and-after.pdf

For information on services and advice for couples and families see https://www.familyrelationships.gov.au/

How can we make our photoshoot more comfortable for our bridal party?

Pack an esky with water, champers and snacks like nuts and take it on your photo shoot. You will be peckish after the ceremony plus it’s way more fun to celebrate with your mates while you take photos. Take a cheap bottle of bubbles to shake and spray during your shoot too.

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There’s more to your ceremony than legal words and “I do’s” — it’s the music, the flow, and the feels.
I’ve pulled together my go-to tips and helpful guides to make planning easier and your day even more unforgettable.

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