Cairns Wedding Services

Creating Special Moments In Time

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Together let’s create an unforgettable moment you will treasure and keep in your hearts forever.

View my inclusive Cairns wedding services below:

Legals Only / Registry-Style

The Frog Prince

Turn the Registry Office frog into a PRINCE! Why settle for the Registry Office when you could get married over cocktails, beachside or in your favourite bar or restaurant? 124 legal words plus the option of adding vows, rings and a short and sweet ceremony.

Add a styled dinner for two, a luxurious boho picnic, grazing platter, private gin tasting or brew tasting.

Full Ceremony

The Goldilocks

Full service packages for Cairns weddings or elopements. Featuring a beautiful, custom written ceremony. Unlimited support and choice of inclusions such as remembrance, rituals and special touches to truly make it your own. We meet to discuss creative inspiration with the support of my fabulous ceremony planner and guide to writing vows. Includes all Australian marriage legals, lodgement of NOIM and registration of your marriage plus much more.

MC & On-the-Day Planner

The Fairy Godmother

Everyone needs a fairy godmother bringing the magic. This support role is tailored to your specific needs and can include creating a realistic yet relaxed schedule, liaising with vendors so everything runs smoothly, time keeping, MC’ing, and generally making your day carefree whilst keeping things moving along nicely.

Virtual Planning Session

Transform your vague vision into a solid plan with a virtual one-on-one planning session with me.

We discuss your values and priorities, where to spend and where to cut costs along with helping you understand how much things cost. Unbiased, honest advice on venues, locations, suppliers, accommodation and transportation that suit your needs and those of your guests. We build a run-sheet for the day, discussing realistic timelines and how to order the flow of your day to suit your priorities. Plus we will emergency-proof your day, I’ve seen it all and know the pitfalls to avoid.

Perfect for couples who don’t have the budget for a full-service Cairns Wedding Planner or who are planning from interstate and need to kick-start the process with solid local advice.

Ali-Cam

An un-edited, raw, emotional remembrance of all the beautiful words and emotions expressed on your day. Includes a full-length UHD video of your Cairns wedding ceremony with professional sound shot from a single fixed point camera. Great for sharing with family far-away.

ali ever after Testimonials

To our one and a million, most amazing marriage celebrant and friend, we can not thank you enough for being a part of our special day! You went...
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Jake & Ali
To our one and a million, most amazing marriage celebrant and friend, we can not thank you enough for being a part of our special day! You went above and beyond and nothing was to big or small for you to deal with considering the stressful, emotional rollercoaster we have gone through. I would 100% recommend you to anyone who is looking for a marriage celebrant because you are the real deal and I meant it when I say you are a friend, but you are more like family! The day we met you were so welcoming and gave us a huge hug, congratulated us on our engagement and couldn’t wait to find out more about to Jake and I. We must have been chatting for well over an hour, you were so excited to be a part of our day and it made us so excited to get married and we knew that this day was going to be special. We clicked and Jake and I knew we wanted you to be our marriage celebrant. You really listened to what we wanted nothing to long but nothing to short and boy did you deliver. When you rang me a few days before the wedding and suggested we had some letters from the loved ones that couldn’t be there on our special day I was so touched, it was an emotional but big high light of the ceremony. We really appreciate you offering to set up the Gopro for our loved ones to get front row seats haha! You were well spoken, warm hearted and made everyone really feel the love on the day, ask anyone that was at that wedding, and they all said you did an amazing job. We love that you mingled with our family and friends and took the time to really get to know each one of them. We had such a great day and we really can’t thank you enough!
Jake & Ali
As soon as we met you Ali, we knew you are THE ONE! You were like a good old friend just filled with those amazing ideas and plans for our ...
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Su Su & Htun
As soon as we met you Ali, we knew you are THE ONE! You were like a good old friend just filled with those amazing ideas and plans for our ceremony. We just felt very reassured. You were also very thoughtful to Htun's far away family from Burma with the greeting video ideas. We love that you tried to get to know with not only us but with all of our friends and family and made the most wonderful personalised wedding ceremony. Truly, you made every second of our ceremony to be very joyous, memorable and special with the mixture of your calming and jolly vibe which made us less anxious and more enjoyed the special moment. Everyone attended our ceremony said that you are remarkable and brilliant. More importantly, you came up with that scavenger hunt surprise in our wedding that reminded me of Htun's proposal to me again. How amazing and lovingly you are! Most of our honeymoon days involved with reminiscing our joyful remarkable wedding day which we thought of you a lot and how we made the best decision ever to ask you to be our celebrant. We really appreciate that you celebrated with us on both of our weddings (Western and Buddhist). Thank you for being awesome. We can't thank you enough.
Su Su & Htun
We wanted someone who cared about our story, and someone who we could connect with. Someone who would help us get over our shyness and make us feel...
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Elisabeth & Tim
We wanted someone who cared about our story, and someone who we could connect with. Someone who would help us get over our shyness and make us feel safe and comfortable to express our feelings to each other. At our first meeting, within minutes, Ali made us feel like we were catching up with someone we’d known our whole lives. She made us feel welcome, safe and made us realise just how special our love story is. We both knew straight away that she was perfect for our special day. Our wedding day would not have been the same without Ali. Not only did she help create a safe, relaxed atmosphere, she helped bring our love story to life. The way she went above and beyond to incorporate such intricate and intimate details about our relationship and describe our love for each other in our ceremony, made it so personal and a wedding that many of our guests said is the best they’ve ever been to. Ali made it so that everyone in the room was able to know our story and feel our love for each other. We especially loved the finishing touches and special surprises that Ali brought to our wedding, things like our personal little future goals, and our hangman game is something we will hold onto forever. If you make the best decision of your life to have Ali as your celebrant, you need to make sure you don’t hold back. Be as open as you can with Ali and she will help make your wedding day the best day of your life. We did, and we are so thankful for the memories that Ali helped us to create. We will cherish them for the rest of our lives. We can’t imagine our ceremony to be led by anyone other than Ali. To truly experience the special celebration that a wedding should be, you need a celebrant who will make your love story, as lame as it might be, come to life. You need to let your inhibition go, let your emotion run wild and just be in the moment. Ali helped us both come out of our shells, and feel comfortable to stand in front of our family and friends, and say how we truly feel about each other. Something that we didn’t know we could do. We are so thankful that we got to share our special day with Ali, thank you for everything you did for us and for making our wedding day the most memorable day of our life xx.
Elisabeth & Tim

For me, when all of the other details fade from my mind … I will always remember how I felt listening to and saying all of those words and...

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Kendell & Eoin

For me, when all of the other details fade from my mind… I will always remember how I felt listening to and saying all of those words and vows, and I will never be able to thank you enough for that Ali.

Kendell & Eoin

ali ever after FAQs

What’s the difference between a wedding and a very expensive party?

The ceremony of course! This is the moment you are married and when done right, it is hands-down the best part of your whole day.

What’s your style of celebrancy?

My style is creative and warm and ever-changing for every single couple I work with.

Laughter is important, we have to be able to crack a joke and have fun.

I am open-minded and love celebrating all the sweet, quirky, interesting, weird and wonderful.

I tell YOUR story. Not theirs, repurposed as yours. No two ceremonies I write are ever the same.

Thinking outside the box and dreaming up unique and special ways to make your Cairns wedding ceremony meaningful are my specialty. So long as those ideas feel good and resonate with you.

Understanding you, building a trusting relationship and creating a tailored ceremony is important. Above all, I want to make this experience fun and free-flowing and easy for you both. And wrap you up in a little bubble of love so you can float through the day, worry free.

How do I choose a Cairns wedding celebrant?

Your celebrant is the vendor you will spend the most time with. And upon whom so much of you and your guests enjoyment and experience of your day rests. Your ceremony is the beating heart of your wedding day. So your celebrant is the one choice you need to make because they fit you just right.

Choose someone you think you will be friends with because in the end, you want to be walking down that aisle to a friendly face, someone you trust and who understands you.

You want to feel heard, do they listen and ask questions and are they interested in you or do they just talk at you?

Are they flexible and willing to work with you and incorporate your ideas? You want to feel safe, so you can relax and enjoy the moment, worry-free.

Choose them for who they are, the value and experience they bring and the time they are willing to invest into building a relationship, tailoring your ceremony and the connection they create. Because that’s when the magic happens!

Whatever you do, don’t choose a celebrant just because they are available and the most affordable. By the time you realise the old saying about peanuts and monkeys is true, your once-in-a-lifetime moment has passed. You don’t get a re-do. Talk to me about the many other (way less important) areas you can keep costs down.

Questions to ask a celebrant:
1. What’s your style of celebrancy and what’s important to you?

2. Why did you become a celebrant?

3. How exactly do you tailor and personalize your ceremonies? Note: giving you the choice of pre-written scripts or the option to tweak a few words here and there is not necessarily a bad thing, but it is not a tailored ceremony if that’s important to you.

4. What materials do they provide to help you plan and create your perfect ceremony?

5. How will they help you with your vows and music? Do they have playlists to inspire you and offer a guide to writing vows?

6. What are the legals? You want to be sure they are meeting all the legal requirements. If they can’t give you a clear list it’s a red flag. See my list in these FAQ’s.

7. Are they a full-time celebrant? Not a deal breaker but good to know.

8. Do they use a client management system so you know they are a professional celebrant who won’t miss any important lodgement dates or details.  You will also know you will have an easy planning experience. This certainly isn’t a deal breaker but it makes life so much easier for you.

9. Do they give you a client portal / online dashboard where everything is stored in one easy place, so you don’t have to trawl through email trails. Just makes life easier.

Where do I start?

It’s totally ok (and really normal) if you have no idea where to start – that’s what I am here for – I am your wedding superpower making the whole experience easy and beautiful and fun. We are going to have a good time creating something very special together.

Remember, this is your wedding and there are no limits to what we can do to make it meaningful and special. No question is too small and I have the answers for you, so ask away! I think for most couples the hardest part is knowing where to start and I have that covered for you with my Wedding Ceremony Planner.

This planner is really easy to use and it inspires you to be creative. It is full of inspo hand selected from my personal experience over the last decade marrying people from all over the world.

Each couple has their own online client portal to ensure nothing is missed. It gives you easy access to everything you need, forms, questionaires, emails, invoice, contract and we can share images and inspo here too.

Everything regarding your wedding is kept nice and organized on this page so you don’t have to sort through all of your emails. How good is that?!  

Do I have to ….?

Nope, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to and I will back your choices all the way.

When making decisions, I find it helpful to ask yourself “does this feel good and right or does it make me feel a bit blah or uneasy?” Listen to your gut, it will clarify your decision making.  On the day you will be surrounded by the choices that make you feel great.

As long as we include the legal wording, have you , me and two witnesses to sign the paperwork, the rest is completely up to you. You are freeeee to be yourself, how good is that?!

I am worried about using a microphone.

You are not alone! That’s why I use hands-free, wireless RODE microphones. No battery packs, no cords and best of all, you don’t have to hold a mic. I’ll clip your mic onto the groom’s lapel just before your speaking parts. And I’ll take it off straight after, so you can laugh and chat with each other in privacy too.

Some celebrants charge $400?

Yes they do, and some charge $1500.00. I am in the middle.

I am also the least expensive and most important part of your day. Your ceremony is the moment that breathes life into your marriage. And when it’s done right, it is always hands-down the best part of your day.

Your guests won’t remember the flavour of your cake, the meal, your invites or the colour of your garter, but they will remember how you made them feel. So let’s make them feel something big and beautiful and magical.

Their memory should be “that was the BEST WEDDING I’ve ever been to”. If you give me the honour of choosing me, you know that you have a full-time celebrant working with you who is creatively focused on your wedding and sharing this journey with you.

How do you create a personalised ceremony that feels like an authentic celebration of us?

I spend time talking to you both, asking questions and really listening. Not only am I am hearing what you say, I am also picking up on your non-verbal cues, the way you interact and communicate, your manner of speaking/ bantering/ joking with each other.

A lot of what I do involves reading between the lines and picking up on subtle clues.

I ask you to answer some questions in my ceremony planner – I’ve been told this is a two-beer job! Make this a date night, share a dinner and some wine and fill these out together. Play my curated music playlists in the car on the way so you can start thinking about your ceremony music.

Once I draft your ceremony, you make any changes until it feels just right. We make any final adjustments and run over the moving parts of your ceremony (we don’t read any of the words or spoil the surprise) at our final meeting/rehearsal. Just so you know where to stand, how to exchange rings etc so you know what to expect and can relax on the day.

What about music?

Your choice of music is important for setting the tone for your ceremony. Choose music that you love, makes you feel good or has special significance to you as a couple.

For inspiration, I will share with you my curated playlists on Spotify filled with songs my real-life couples have chosen for their ceremonies over the last year.

I can DJ your ceremony music for you from my IPAD or you can choose a tech savvy guest to control music from their phone, on my cues. Generally you will need a minimum of four songs.

· Entrance – One to Two Songs
One song is usually enough, however if you have either a long entrance walks or lots of attendants, you may want two songs here. One song for the attendants and one for the bridal entrance.

· Kiss and Signing– Two Songs
As you kiss, this song plays. Linger in this moment! When the time is right, I ask couple and witnesses to join me at signing table to sign paperwork.

· Kiss and Signing continued –
This second song plays directly after the kiss song while paperwork is being signed. It may not be played in full depending on how long the paperwork takes.

· Exit / Recessional – One Song
Choose a very happy, joyful song for this.

· Pre and post ceremony background music
Your guests arrive around 15-20 mins before we begin, so it’s great to have a collection of songs to play as soft background music before the ceremony. You may also like to have a list to play after the exit as happy upbeat background music while the bride and groom mingle with guests.

I can create playlists if you would like me to DJ.

How long will the wedding ceremony go for?

Bank on 45 minutes which includes a buffer. I strike a perfect balance so it’s short enough to keep your guests engaged and long enough to give the moment depth it deserves. Pace is important!

Most Cairns wedding ceremonies take between 25-35  minutes from start of entrance walk, through the ceremony, kiss, signing and the huge happy exit into hugs and kisses and photos.

Remember this includes 4 songs, so this time will fly by. Often couples who wish for a very short wedding are disappointed and so are their guests.

Your marriage ceremony is the heart and soul of your wedding and it will set the mood for your entire day. People have travelled to be with you as you marry so make it heartfelt. Your guests love to laugh and cry and feel at weddings and they want to be swept up in a celebration of the two people they love.

 

We are thinking of eloping…

Do it! Elopements rock. A modern elopement is all about getting married in a way that is designed solely for your happiness and experience instead of your guests. If you like the idea of saying YES to a peaceful, relaxed, intimate ceremony custom built for you and saying NO to stress, planning, politics and expectation, come talk to me.

Can you help me plan our elopement?

YES – I love an elopement in any shape or size! I also love an adventure elopement! I have travelled from Melbourne to Cape York, Sydney to Thailand to celebrate amazing humans finding love. This is going to be a blast! Let’s plan your elopement right now…

What is your process Ali?

1. After checking availability, we have a phone chat to get a feel for each other, we want to gel and feel confident that we will enjoy working together.

2. Payment of a booking fee secures your date.

3. We meet up throughout the process either online or face-to-face.

4. We explore the legal aspects starting with the lodgement Notice of Intended Marriage form and sighting of identification. Fill out this form: https://www.ag.gov.au/families-and-marriage/publications/notice-intended-marriage

5. The fun stuff begins where we dive into creating your unique wedding ceremony.

6. We have a rehearsal or final meeting to answer last minute questions and run over moving parts.

7. We get you married.

8. I register your marriage with Registry of Births Deaths and Marriages, at this time I can also apply for your Official Certificate of Marriage on your behalf.

9. You receive your Official Certificate in the mail which you then use to change your name is desired.

What is your pre-wedding process on the big day?

I spend the morning of your wedding day rehearsing and memorising your ceremony so I can present it naturally.

I do vocal exercises in the car. arriving 45-60min beforehand so I can prep any props, check seating allocations and set-up are all as per your requirements. Set up my PA, video camera, tripod, mics and sound check.

Liaise with vendors and brief your photographer/ videographer on special moments not to be missed in your ceremony. Ground myself and prepare the ceremony space with a meditation and Reiki.

Play background music. Welcome guests. Chat to immediate family and check they know where they are seated. Chat to anyone participating in the ceremony such as readers and witnesses. Settle and brief groomsmen. Welcome and brief bridal party. Gather and seat guests. Showtime.

A traditional timeline looks a little like this:

Pre-Wedding Run Sheet – Cue Cairns Wedding Party

45min-1 hr before Ali will arrive at venue and check all OK with set-up, sound check etc.

Ali to start playing background music.

15-30 min before Partner 1 and attendants and guests arrive at ceremony area.

Ali greets guests, briefs participants.

5-10 min before Wedding Planner/Ali gives Partner 2 and attendants (aka Bridal Party) their cue.

Ali gets Bridal Party into position at start of processional (out of view of guests).

When Bridal Party is in position and ready, Ali seats guests.

Ali to fade down background music and give brief welcome and unplugged/no photos / housekeeping announcement if required.

Ali plays Entrance song.
Bridal party commence walking down slowly. No rush.

Do we need a Rehearsal?

If having a full-rehearsal will make you feel more comfortable then we will absolutely do one. But if you have enough on your plate or don’t have time, don’t worry.

I arrive early to brief everyone involved and I quietly guide you all through the wedding ceremony. All you have to do is be in the moment knowing I am there for you.

I also have rehearsal video’s you can share with your wedding party, your dad or escort/s and all main participants.

Tradition isn’t really our thing..

I love celebrating the things that make you you.

In a way that allows you to experience all the things that matter and are important to you. An skipping the bits that feel empty or unnecessary.

I am happy to break tradition, if it makes sense to you and makes you feel good. I am also happy to add any cultural elements, nods to heritage, pride, rainbow or anything else.

I want you to feel happy and free, grounded, present and authentic.

What makes a great wedding?

The best ceremonies take you and your guests on a journey. 

There is often a sense of past, present and future. You want to have lots of “awww” moments, happy tears, laughter, and a warm-hearted sense of inclusion.

The ceremony should feel like a real celebration of you two humans and your guests should recognize you both in all the words we use.

We are really nervous!

You are so safe and loved! I am here for you every step of the way. Think of me as your personal safety net. I will wrap you up in a little bubble of love so you can float through the day feeling the love without the nerves.

It’s important that you are fully present and in the moment so I’ll share with you the greatest secret behind actually enjoying your wedding day and I have lots of practical tips to help you get there.

You will know that nothing can really go wrong in the end. I will be gently and quietly leading the way when you need it, and I also know when to leave you to enjoy your personal private moments when you need those too.

Nervous about saying your vows in public? I have some really cool ways to work around this. Plus you don’t have to hold a microphone. I use hands-free, wireless RODE microphones. See my FAQ on mics.

I am nervous about being the centre of attention.

There is so much we can do to take that fishbowl feeling away from you. Changing your positioning, altering the ways you enter, and a first look are just the tip of the iceberg.

The key is to get you out of your head and into your heart. It’s a skill.

I give you tips about ways to slow down, pause and savour this special moment so it doesn’t fly by in a total whirlwind.

And on the day I consciously and subtly add elements into your ceremony which engage you and your guests, break the ice, relax you out of your nerves and make everyone feel included. It’s not obvious, you just know you feel good and are right there together in the moment.

 

Can we write our own vows?

Absolutely!

I’ll share with you my expert guide to writing vows which breaks it into bite-sized steps, giving you a few different approaches, so you’ll be sure to find one that works for you.

I also have a selection of really beautiful vow samples you can either choose from or use as inspiration. Or do a little blend of both mine and yours!

Alternatively, you can skip the personal vows altogether.

Plus you have me as your sounding board and safety net – I check the length and tone of your vows aren’t at odds.

Will you print readings and vows?

Yes. I can print your wedding vows on beautiful card in a big, easy to read font. Or you can hand-write or print your own vows if you prefer.

Readers are welcome to bring their own copy of their reading, one in which they have practiced with and are most comfortable with. I can also print their reading on card or hand your readers my iPad from which to read if they prefer.

Can I include my guests?

Yes please! Choose family and friends who will really enjoy being included.

Give important people in your life a role or ask talented friends to contribute and make it interesting. They could sing or play a song, read a poem or speech they’ve written, perform a dance, welcome or seat guests, sign your certificates – the sky is the limit and it adds a real meaning to the ceremony. If guests are comfortable playing a role then I can’t recommend this enough.

You just have to say “Ali I would really love “Aunty Pat” to be involved somehow” and we will figure out a special way for her to be included. One that she will actually enjoy.

We only want a small Cairns wedding ceremony

Big or small, we will work together to infuse your ceremony with warmth and heart so that it is a living breathing celebration of you two and the things that matter most to you. Some of my favourite weddings of all time have had the smallest number of guests.

How soon can we marry?

You must give your completed and signed Notice to an authorised celebrant at least one month, and not more than 18 months, before your proposed marriage. Unless a shortening of time has been authorised. The form can be downloaded here https://www.ag.gov.au/families-and-marriage/publications/notice-intended-marriage

What is the legal process for getting married in Australia?

In Australia, marriage is regulated by the Marriage Act 1961, which sets out the process for getting married and legal requirements of a valid marriage. These are the legal requirements for you and your celebrant:

1. A completed Notice of Intended Marriage form must be given to your celebrant at least one month (and up to 18 months) before the wedding.

2. You and your partner must provide your celebrant with evidence of your date and place of birth, identity and end of any previous marriages. Passports are ideal otherwise birth certificates plus drivers license is acceptable.

3. You must read the “Happily Ever After” brochure and must both sign the “Declaration of no legal impediment to marriage”. By signing this, you declare that you are of marriageable age and that there is no legal impediment to your marriage.

4. On your wedding day, you celebrant will solemnise your marriage using the legal wording. You, your partner and your witnesses will sign up to three marriage certificates.

5. After your wedding, your marriage celebrant will register your marriage with the Registry of Births, Deaths and Marriages in the state or territory where your marriage took place.

What name do I sign on the marriage certificate?

This gets asked all the time, literally just as you are about to sign on the dotted line! You sign your current name not your married name.

You cannot legally change your name to your married name until after you receive your Official Marriage Certificate, usually a few weeks after your ceremony. It is only then you can begin the process of changing your name. So if you are going on an overseas honeymoon straight after the wedding, don’t book your flights in your married name!

How do I get my Official Certificate of Marriage?

On the day of your marriage you, you take home a beautiful symbolic certificate of marriage to commemorate your wedding day. It won’t legally prove your marriage or allow you to change your name. You have to wait for your Official Certificate of Marriage to do this.

After your wedding day, I register your marriage online.
You then apply directly to the Registry for your Official Certificate by filling out an application, paying the fee, and providing certified copies of your identification.

However, I like to simplify and fast track this process for you by applying on your behalf when I register your marriage. This extra step means you don’t have to fill out the application yourself – so much easier! BDM will then contact you directly for payment (standard certificate and postage is $56.00) and they will then post your certificate directly to your home. You can then use it to change your name.

Note: I need to sight your original identification in order to apply on your behalf, make sure you bring this when we meet.

Sun, rain and do we need a back-up plan?

Being physically uncomfortable is the one thing that pulls everyone out of the moment. It’s impossible to get swept up in the beauty of your love story when you are in full-sun, hot and thirsty or worried about getting wet.

You might think “oh it’s not for very long” but trust me, it’s a deal breaker for everyone. Try going out in your backyard in a suit and dress, stand and hold hands with your partner looking face into the direction of the full mid-afternoon sun and see how long you last.

3pm can be a brutal time of day, so if your ceremony is outdoors consider a slightly later start, say 4pm. Or a morning wedding. Or choose a shady area for your ceremony.

Have water or drinks on-hand for guests. And have a wet-weather back-up plan in case of rain and be sure to let me know what that plan is.

I can bring 10 clear umbrellas or rice paper parasols upon request.

What is the Happily Ever Before and After Brochure and Services for Couples and families?

Once you lodge your Notice of Intended Marriage form, it is the responsibility of your celebrant to provide you with this document (Happily Ever Before and After)

https://www.ag.gov.au/sites/default/files/2020-03/happily-ever-before-and-after.pdf

For information on services and advice for couples and families see https://www.familyrelationships.gov.au/

How can we make our photoshoot more comfortable for our bridal party?

Pack an esky with water, champers and snacks like nuts and take it on your photo shoot. You will be peckish after the ceremony plus it’s way more fun to celebrate with your mates while you take photos. Take a cheap bottle of bubbles to shake and spray during your shoot too.